Older cousin called in the afternoon. First, he asked if everything is ready and there probably isn’t anything that needs help with now. I don’t understand if that is a question or a statement. I told him, everything is ready, I don’t need his help. Second, he said some of dad’s old friend wants to come to the funeral. Nikon told me about this person who had some kind of opinion about how things should be done. He thought we should have dad’s son come over for the funeral. I told my cousin that it’s going to be just for family and we are not sending any notices out so the fewer the people the better. Mom doesn’t like to bother people when she was here. He said, well, we won’t try to tell people about the details, but if they ask about it, then we should be polite and let them know. The obvious question is how would they get wind of this if he didn’t tell others. I didn’t tell anybody and I barely know of this person by name. How did he know about this? So we agree we won’t tell people but if they ask about it, we would let them know. Third, he asked about the 1st 7th day ritual. He has a business dinner that night. He said, Nikon would give him a ride to come for the ritual. He said, he’ll be there after 9pm. I told him the ritual starts at 8:30pm. He said, well, we’ll probably be there after 9pm. I said, I can call and let him know if the ritual is done before they get there so they don’t need to come for nothing. He said, why don’t you wait for us there even after the ritual is done. There are people who would stay at the funeral home all night for their loved ones. I said, oh ok. I bit my tongue and didn’t let him have it. And we hung up the phone.
He is going to tell those that may cause trouble to come to the funeral. He doesn’t even offer to help with anything, just hinting that I shouldn’t need any of his help. Then he won’t come to the ritual on time and yet expect me to wait for him even if the ritual is over. Who does he really think he is. Should mom’s spirit wait for him too at the hall after the ritual is done just because he is late?
Visited mom earlier but didn’t meet Mr. Liu. Didn’t get the prayer beads and the prayers he told me about today. Have to be tomorrow. Told the realtor about mom’s passing, she said she’ll call me back . I probably need to apply for inheritance. Gosh, another headache there.
Sitting in the room all afternoon. It’s getting a bit depressing. Not good to have time to myself. Better get out and walk about a bit.
It’s a pleasant surprise to find out S was going to stay at her shop till 9:30p. So i went over and she ordered dinner and we ate there together with one of her old customer. We talked and kept each other company. She dropped me off at the hotel on her way home. That was the day. I was totally exhausted again and fell asleep shortly after.